Ten things you need to know about mediation rights for same-sex couples

Understanding Mediation Rights for Same-Sex Couples 

What is mediation? 

Mediation involves resolving disputes between two parties through dialogue and negotiation, leading to a mutually acceptable agreement. In child custody cases, a neutral third-party mediator assists both parents in negotiating a custody agreement and parenting plan that works for both parties. Many parents opt for mediation during separation or divorce. 

Mediation is often less costly than both parties hiring lawyers and is much faster. It is also much less stressful than the litigation process and provides a confidential setting as opposed to a public courtroom.  

While this often is overlooked, same-sex couples are granted the same rights as heterosexual couples during the mediation process. Here are some important things you should know about the process.  

Ten Things You Need to Know About Same-Sex Mediation 

1. Neutral Third-Party Mediator 

A mediator is a neutral party who facilitates discussions between both parents, ensuring that both perspectives are heard and considered. 

2. Voluntary Process 

Mediation is voluntary, meaning both parties must agree to participate. It’s designed to encourage cooperation and find a mutually agreeable solution. 

3. Confidentiality 

All discussions during mediation are confidential. This encourages open and honest communication without fear of repercussions in court. 

4. Customized Agreements 

Mediation allows for customized agreements that can be tailored to fit the unique needs of the family, rather than adhering strictly to court mandates. 

5. Focus on Best Interests of the Child 

The primary focus in mediation is on the best interests of the child. Mediators help ensure that the child’s needs are prioritized in the custody arrangement. 

6. Recognition of Unique Challenge 

Same-sex couples may face unique legal and social challenges. Mediators with experience in same-sex custody cases understand these nuances and can address them effectively. 

7. Inclusive Language and Sensitivity 

Mediators in same-sex custody cases use inclusive language and demonstrate sensitivity to the specific dynamics and concerns of LGBTQ+ families, creating a more supportive environment. 

8. Less Adversarial 

Mediation is less adversarial than court proceedings, which can help maintain a more amicable relationship between parents. This is particularly beneficial for ongoing co-parenting. 

9. Cost-Effective 

Mediation is generally less expensive than litigation. It can save both time and money by avoiding prolonged court battles. 

10. Flexibility in Scheduling 

Mediation sessions can be scheduled at times that are convenient for both parties, offering greater flexibility than court dates. 

It is important for same-sex couples to know that they have the same rights as heterosexual couples, even in mediation. Along with these ten important things to know, there are some great resources listed below for further community education.  

Important Resources for LGBTQ+ families: 

• Lambda Legal: Provides legal assistance and advocacy for LGBTQ+ rights. 
• National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR): Offers resources and legal support for LGBTQ+ individuals.  
• Family Equality Council: Supports LGBTQ+ families with resources and advocacy. 
• American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): Advocates for LGBTQ+ rights and provides legal resources.  
• Legal Aid Community Classroom: Resources for child support, divorce, LGBTQ+ rights, along with videos on parent mediation listed here.  

By understanding your rights and seeking appropriate legal assistance, you can navigate the complexities of mediation. For personalized legal advice, please consult a qualified attorney with experience in LGBTQ+ family law. 

Written by: Ben Butcher, 2024